When "Just get started!" doesn't work


Happy Friday, Reader!

Tell me if this sounds familiar:

You tell them to clean their room. Or start that essay. Or work on their science fair project.

They just… stare. Maybe they groan. Maybe they lash out. Maybe they disappear entirely.

Meanwhile, you're wondering: Why is this so hard?! Just get started!

Here’s the thing: when a task feels too big, too unclear, or too overwhelming, kids freeze. It’s not laziness or defiance—it’s their brain hitting a wall.

And here's where the battle begins: You think they should just know how to begin. They assume you're just nagging. No one wins, and nothing gets done.

Three common mistakes I see over and over:

  • Assuming a child can make their own plan
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  • Believing the task should be easy to finish
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  • Expecting them to know how to organize it into steps

The truth? Most students don’t naturally know how to break down big assignments or responsibilities. That’s a skill—one that can be taught.

In this new article, I’m sharing the same method I’ve used as a teacher, parent, and executive function coach to help students finally make progress on those big, intimidating projects.

You’ll learn three simple ways to break down tasks—by time, space, or type—so your child (or student) can stop spinning their wheels and actually move forward.

​Read the full article here: Managing Projects: How to Break Down Tasks for Better Progress​

Let me know what you think—I always love hearing how this works with real kids.

Executive Function Elsewhere in the World

Here are a couple of my favorite articles and resources from this week:

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Have a great weekend!

Alison Eber, Ph.D.

Alison is an executive function coach, teacher, and mom who has a Ph.D. in Educational Administration and Policy. Her research centered on social media and teacher learning. She spent 15 years teaching in public schools. She now spends her time blogging and working with students, parents, and teachers to use technology responsibly and develop kids' executive function skills.

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